There is no such thing as an adoption fail….

Phew. Now that I have said it out loud and you are still here with me, lets talk about it.

Adoption is full of complex emotions, feelings, and circumstances. This goop of life brings expectant parents, adoptive parents, and adoption agenices together. And while there may be a difference in dreams for the baby, the one goal that remains steady is that the baby is in a home that can meet all of their basic needs safely. Nationally it is estimated that approximately 70-90% (these statistics vary depending on source) of all private adoptions result in the baby being placed with the adoptive family. That means that as high 30% of all expectant parents make a different decision at some point during the pregnancy or even post delivery.

Many agencies call this a “fail”, but at Starr Adoption Services we do not. A safe parent deciding to parent is a good decision, although it make create a feeling of loss and grief for the adoptive family. This is the same emotion experienced by an expectant parent who decides to parent.

We believe that the child that is meant to enter your family will, but in the meantime we are here to support you.

1) You can call and process with us as much as needed. Sometimes you need a listening ear & we are here for you.

2) We have counseling services available to adoptive parents to process your grief and loss & ensure you feel supported and ready to move forward on your journey to grow your family.

3) If the cost associated with the adoption contract exceed your guaranteed flat rate loss, you do not need to worry. Starr Adoption Services will pay the remaining cost for the adoption that was not completed. Allowing for your family to pursue another adoption option, without the large finanical ramifications that occur with many agencies. Our goal is to help you build your family, but to also honor when an expectant parent is in a position to parent the child, or has a healthy alternative to adoption.